Coping With The Reality of Motherhood
You never thought having a baby would be easy . . .
As a matter of fact, you were never that person who always wanted to have kids because, frankly, the idea of it scared the shit out of you (especially the childbirth part). But you didn't expect it to be quite this hard, and sometimes you even wonder if becoming a mother was a terrible mistake. The childbirth, while pretty frightening, doesn’t hold a candle to the day in, day out parts of caring for a baby, putting yourself last (if you even make it on the list), losing every ounce of freedom, and feeling like you’ve had to put all of your goals and dreams on a shelf far away, perhaps never to be seen again.
These feelings don’t mean you're a bad person, a terrible mother, or anything of the sort. It means you're human, and you’re scared.
You probably can’t express this stuff to anyone in your life, but you haven’t met me yet.
As many as 1 in 5 women suffer from postpartum mood and anxiety disorders, and symptoms can occur at any point during pregnancy or the first year after childbirth (the term perinatal is often used to refer to this time period). Take a moment and let that sink in. Pregnancy is about ten months, and then you spend another full year after you have your baby adjusting to this HUGE life change.
What you’re feeling may not even be a PMAD (Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder). It may be that you don’t fit the predetermined mold of what you think a mom is supposed to look like, feel, do, or be. You get to define what motherhood is for you, and you don’t have to do it alone.
Remember that you have options when it comes to getting support. Too overwhelmed by the thought of leaving the house? Let’s try virtual counseling sessions. Having a hard time fitting in exercise and a therapy appointment? Maybe Walk & Talk is just the solution. Can’t find childcare? Bring baby with you! I won’t claim my office is childproof, but we’ll get creative to keep baby occupied. The important part is that you get what you need.